Sample Marriage Vows

Here is one example of vows used by the Justice of the Peace that we most often work with when she officiates our gay weddings:

Dana and Jamie we are gathered here together to witness the love and respect that you have for each other.
Dana and Jamie are you entering into this marriage freely, voluntarily and without any conditions?

Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens.
A good marriage must be created.
The little things are the big things. 
It is never being too old to hold hands.  
It is remembering to say "I love you" at least once a day.  
 
It is never going to sleep angry.  
It is at no time taking the other for granted;  
the courtship should not end with the honeymoon,  
it should continue through all the years.  
 
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives. 
It is standing together facing the world.  
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.  
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude 
of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.  
 
It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating 
gratitude in thoughtful ways.  
It is not expecting one person to wear a halo
or the other to have the wings of an angel. 
It is not looking for perfection in each other.  
It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor.  
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.  
It is giving each other an atmosphere in 
which each can grow.  
 
It is finding room for the things of the spirit.
It is a common search for the good and 
the beautiful.  
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and 
the obligation is reciprocal.  
It is not only marrying the right partner,  
it is being the right partner. 

Marriage also bestows enormous private and social advantages on those who choose to marry.  Civil marriage is at once a deeply personal commitment to another human being and highly public celebration of the ideals of mutuality, companionship, intimacy, fidelity, and family…..Because it fulfills yearnings for security, safe haven, and connection that express our common humanity, civil marriage is an esteemed institution, and the decision whether and whom to marry is among life’s momentous acts of self-definition. 

Dana and Jamie please face each other and repeat after me. 
Dana, I come here today to join your life for years,
I pledge to be true to you, to respect you, 
and to grow with you through the years. 
We are many things to each other,
May only those best qualities continue to shine
And may our bond continue to grow stronger 
Time may pass, fortune may smile, trials may come; 
no matter what we may encounter together, 
I vow here today that this love will be my only love. 
I will make my home in your heart from this day forward 

Jamie, I come here today to join your life for years,
I pledge to be true to you, to respect you, 
and to grow with you through the years. 
We are many things to each other,
May only those best qualities continue to shine
And may our bond continue to grow stronger 
Time may pass, fortune may smile, trials may come; 
no matter what we may encounter together, 
I vow here today that this love will be my only love. 
I will make my home in your heart from this day forward
 
*****MAY I PLEASE HAVE THE RINGS*****
Dana, what I have to give you is 
The promise to take you as my only love from this day forward, 
to stand by your side, to listen when you speak, 
to comfort you when you cry,  
and to join your laughter with my own. 
Take this ring, and be part of my life forever
Jamie, what I have to give you is 
The promise to take you as my only love from this day forward, 
to stand by your side, to listen when you speak, 
to comfort you when you cry,  
and to join your laughter with my own. 
Take this ring, and be part of my life forever.

Your gift to each other for your wedding today has been your wedding rings. The wedding ring is a symbol of the vows taken here today…….a circle of wholeness perfect in form. The unending circle of a ring is a sign of fidelity, the pledged faithfulness of a couple to each other. These rings mark the beginning of an unending journey together filled with wonder and surprises, laughter and tears, celebration and joy. May these rings glow in the warmth and happiness of you both today.

There may be times filled with happiness, sorrow, tears or laughter, whatever it may be, remember love has given you wings; your journey begins today; Dana and Jamie, if there is anything you remember of this marriage ceremony, remember the love that brought you here today, it is only love which can make your marriage a glorious union, and it is by love that your marriage will endure.

Dana and Jamie, as you have consented together in lawful wedlock and thereto have pledged your faith to each other, and have declared the same by joining hands and giving and receiving of rings and exchanged your first gifts as a married couple and by the powers vested in me as a Justice of the Peace for the Commonwealth of Massachusetts, I now pronounce you are now married!   

If you wish to seal this marriage with a kiss, you may now do so.