Introducing the Destiny Chicago Package

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Happy New Year

Happy new year, friends and colleagues!  I hope you had a wonderful holiday season.  This post is a little late because our holidays were kind of hectic...between both of us getting horrible colds and Jen's grandma passing away, we have been fairly unplugged. As always, we start the new year highlighting 14 things that were exciting about LGBTQ rights, marriage equality and our company in 2013. Enjoy the list below and we look forward to hearing from you to celebrate this new year!  More

A Beautiful Gay Wedding at the State Room

I really really really love the work we get to do and the wonderful clients we meet. Lee and Tom are a perfect example, a very well matched couple, equally nerdy and equally funny. Their wedding had a little bit of geek for everyone - the science geek, the computer geek, the board game geek, the SciFi geek...it was such a beautiful, extremely personalized wedding and we couldn't be more proud to have produced it. This awesome gay wedding was at Boston's State Room, one of the most beautiful venues in the city.  More

14 Stories and the W Retreat and Spa in Vieques

We have some very exciting news that we've been working on for months.  The press release pretty much says it all, but the short story is that 14 Stories and the W Retreat and Spa in Vieques Island (Puerto Rico) are announcing a special same-sex wedding planning partnership.  It thrills me to be partners with the W, especially since Starwood Hotels is consistently a great ally to the LGBT community.  Keep reading for more details.  More

The Dinner Party Style Wedding

(Note: this is a vintage blog post resurrected because we're seeing a lot of these now that DOMA is gone!)  More

Family Equality Council to Benefit from 14 Stories Weddings

As I've said before, the Family Equality Council is an LGBT organization near and dear to my heart.  In light of the AMAZING news surrounding the Supreme Court's rulings, I wanted to make a donation to FEC on behalf of all new full production clients who book with us.  SO here's the deal: for all full service weddings booked with 14 Stories by August 15, 2013, 14 Stories will make a donation of $1000 to Family Equality Council.  For every elopement booked in that time, we'll donate $150.  So, show the LOVE with 14 Stories and Family Equality Council.  More

Gay Wedding Tradition: Foundation Covenants/Sign-in Boards

I love ketubahs, Foundation Covenants and other sacred wedding texts.  I think they are elegant and can reflect the personality of the couple.  

Traditionally, the ketubah is signed by the couple, their rabbi/officiant and a few witnesses before the wedding.  The Foundation Covenant and Quaker Marriage Certificate are signed by the couple and their officiant during the ceremony, and by their guests witnessing the covenant, after the ceremony.  I love that this can substitute as a guest book.   More

Which Traditions to Keep?

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Gay Wedding Tradition: Pre-Ceremony Champagne

More often than not, and enough to call it a gay wedding tradition, guests to gay weddings are greeted with passed sparkling wine and water before the wedding ceremony.  Sometimes it's a cocktail and sometimes it's a full open bar but it's usually just some bubbly.  More

Traditionally, At a Gay Wedding

When I'm asked by a reporter, a prospective client, a curious acquaintance, or a stranger at a cocktail party, "What's the difference between a straight wedding and a gay wedding?", my response begins with, "Well, traditionally, at a gay wedding..."

That's right - there are gay wedding traditions, mostly at the ceremony.  Let me explain further.

There's a strong and palpable feeling of triumph and celebration at gay weddings.  But before that feeling actually sets in, many of the guests who have never before attended a gay wedding simply don't know what to expect.  So the guests start out with a great deal of anticipation, are a little nervous, excited, curious.  We like to help them relax.  Traditionally, at a gay wedding, guests are greeted before the ceremony with champagne and sparkling water.  This can last for 5-30 minutes before the ceremony begins and sets the tone of something a little bit different but definitely celebratory and fun.

Then comes the processional...and not your typical Wedding March, the Bridal Chorus or Trumpet Voluntary with a massive wedding party.  Traditionally, if there is a central aisle, the couple walks in together holding hands.  If there is no central aisle (often), the couple walks in from two different directions each accompanied by their family and/or wedding party, and meets in the middle.  And the music?  How about "All You Need is Love", "Ribbon in the Sky" or another contemporary piece with meaning to the couple?  Sometimes this piece is played live and sometimes it's the recorded version of the song.  Our processional is "Your Precious Love" by Marvin Gaye and Tammi Terrell.

example of a Foundation Covenant, designed by
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