Keep Your Parents Busy

As I've mentioned before, there's definitely a trick to getting your parents exciting about your gay wedding plans.  The last tip in my series suggests giving your parents projects.  Here are some excellent projects to distract your parents that give them something to control that will keep them out of your hair:

  • plan and host the rehearsal dinner/welcome reception
  • plan and host a wedding shower
  • organize and assemble welcome bags for out of state guests (note: parents like being hosts so these three are very effective)
  • create a signature cocktail recipe
  • procure and assemble wedding favors (I once had a dad make homemade wine with custom labels - each couple received a bottle on their way out)
  • address and mail save the date cards and wedding invitations
  • write names on escort cards
  • organize guest transportation
If possible, avoid asking your parents to do your wedding planning.  As a gay wedding planner, I can tell you that the times I've dealt with moms and dads instead of the engaged couple, there's been confusion, mixed messages and a lot of wasted time.  Plus, your parents aren't always in sync with your own wedding vision.  Best to give them projects and a sense of control over the projects which aren't necessarily as important to you - while you deal with the stuff that you care most about.

What kinds of projects are your parents helping with, if any?

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